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Understanding and Overcoming the Fear in Starting Over

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Understanding and Overcoming the Fear in Starting Over

There are no secret formulas that can bring ease to the mind of someone that is considering the opportunity of starting over. I use the word opportunity because that is exactly what is offered in the process of doing something new, with something old. Though, to many people it may often feel discouraging and relentless, it can also feel empowering and restoring if its true perspectives or alternatives are allowed to penetrate through the conditions of a person’s past experience.

In many cases starting over imposes stifling conditions of fear that can overwhelm the minds and life conditions of even the most rational thinking people in our lives.

Though this fear possesses no power of its own, it is recognizably known to be a consumer of:

• our expression of dignity
• our respect for our ability
• our will to persevere
• our hope for opportunity
• our energy to do more
• our belief in prosperity
• our enthusiasm for life to produce growth and development

But even in its most active state of stifling your mind and your life, it remains vulnerable. It cannot operate without your consent. You are the master and granter of its power. Circumstance may present itself as being a controlling factor in the accumulation of power that the fear in starting over presents, but as I have stated in the past, “Circumstance is a Liar”. Old conditions or circumstances do not represent the opportunities in the new conditions that you are willing to present into your life.

When you engage in the acceptance that challenge is an opportunity to do things better, you strengthen the purpose in your opportunity and weaken the given power in the fear of starting over. “Challenge” (chal·lenge: An act or statement of defiance; a call to confrontation) is the most appropriate word that I can personally consider when encountering fear that is related to starting over.

Sharing My Experience

I can remember when I was faced with the most challenging consideration of starting over in my life. It was several years ago when I was being downsized from what I considered to be the job of my dreams. I had relocated my family nearly 1,200 miles from our home in Virginia to Minnesota. The company had invested a substantial amount of money for my family and I to relocate to Minnesota. Then 9/11 took place and the technology industry went south. Companies were downsizing for survival,special funded projects were being eliminated and lifestyles were being destroyed. The company that I worked for had merged with another company in Iowa and 96% of my entire team was being downsized so that our workload could be moved to a more cost effective location in Iowa.

Circumstance was doing its job. For a short period of time in my life, I was convinced that all that I had worked for in my life had come to an end. For nearly eleven months I was unemployed. The bills were piling up and technology jobs were nowhere to be found.

It was the first time in my life that I had felt beaten and lost. I became so scared for my family’s future, that I became angry. It was not the anger of fear that had taken residence in my mind. It was the anger of loosing control of my family’s life that ignited something new in the circumstance of something old.

The more that I considered the fact that I was not alone in this array of misfortune, the angrier I became. There were hundreds of thousands of families that were being influenced by circumstance in the same way. Many of you were amongst those struggling families. The conditions and circumstances of that misfortune was most likely, not do to your own actions. But the appearance in your circumstance was so convincing that it became an accepted reality. Circumstance was operating at its best and welcoming us all to its pity party. Life had changed and starting over became very familiar to an astounding amount of families.

Fighting Back

I like many family members made the decision to fight back. My friends and I had began to not only sharing concerns, but also share strategies to overcome our circumstances. It was as though our community of friends had been reborn with new purposes. Circumstance was in for a fight and my family was not gonna lose.

While fear tried its best to dominate my family’s thinking, we fought back with positive affirmations, actions and influences. Like many people, we had decided that we were stronger than the circumstance that had been placed before us.

Life changed, when we changed our thinking and executed positive actions. That is when starting over became an opportunity to do something new, with something old. Very similar to many of you that were faced with similar conditions, life became fun again and our true reality took its course within our lives.

Ralph Waldo Emerson was once quoted as saying, “A man is what he thinks about all day long”. I’ve heard and have created many positive quotes that can alter the stages of our lives, but this quotes is special. It holds true to how we can empower ourselves through any challenge that is placed before us.

Therefore, if you are being faced with the fear of starting over. It is important that you take an inventory of you and your family’s mindset and actions. In achieving this awareness you will then be able to implement the changes needed to regain focus and power within your life.

Together we can help each of us overcome this stifling element within our lives….

If starting over has ever been a challenge for you and or your family, please share your experiences and or remedies in your reply….

All of us would like to know….

Related Quote:

The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.

~ William James