Winners can tell you where they are going, what they are doing, what they plan to do along the way, and who will be sharing the adventure with them.
~ Denis Waitley
Bridging the Gaps
What just happened?
You are expected to come home at your curfew. It's 10 minutes after curphew. Your not home. Your loved ones are calling you and you choose not to answer the phone...
Sometimes curfews may appear to be troublesome or even embarrassing. There is a thoughtful reason behind its madness. Loved ones often implement curfews to protect those that they love and care about from harmful situations or circumstances. Though when challenged by you, they may sometimes struggle in expressing why the particular curfew time was selected. In most situations, this time is selected based upon past or current experiences that warrant a time that brings comfort relating your safety. You might fairly argue that you are a responsible and mature person in character. Without challenging or validating your evaluation of your character. I can honestly tell you that in most cases, the level of your character was already considered. Curfews are not implemented to protect others. They are implemented to protect you.
Your intentions may have been harmeless in deciding to break curfew and not respond to the phone call. I believe that there are concerns that you may have not considered. I'd be willing to bet, that as a person with good character you have in most cases honored and respected your time of curfew. This has in return brought comfort to those that are concerned about your safety. Often those that love you cannot truly rest until you are in the comfort of home at the end of the day.
When you chose not to answer the call, an immediate feeling of alert consumed their minds. This concern does not take place because of distrust. It takes place because your past actions earned you well deserved trust and expectation. Your present action placed you in a situation that weakens the level of trust that you have worked so hard to maintain. Sometimes short term gratification can cost us long term recovery.
While understanding that your choice to take this action may have offered an extension of the good time that you were experiencing. You were also making a bold statement that appeared to be disrespectful and inconsiderate. As a person of character, you should not have a problem with the repercussions of your actions. Very similar to how you would challenge someone that has disrespected you, there should be no surprise that this action will also be challenged.
I am sure that many thoughts went through your mind both before and after the phone began to ring. Most of these thoughts were not the correct thoughts to accomplish the positive results that you would like to achieve. Though you cannot always predict the response of someone else. You can minimize the damage that you contribute to your character.
Though there may have been minimal consideration of calling your loved ones prior to the curfew time. The benefits of communication deserved more consideration. It is important that you understand that though communication may not always get you what you want. It can often get you what you need and deserve.
As you grow into the activities of your life, you will be faced with the pressures of decisions and responsibilities. You owe it to yourself to maintain the character that you have worked so hard to develop.
In communication you will find:
- and honesty
These are the ingredients in communication that will not let you down!
Where possibility encourages greatness....
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